I realized that I HAD to get out of the situation when my abuser pulled out a 9MM handgun pointed it at me.
For Tia, the abuse began on a verbal scale. Once their relationship hit the 2-year mark, things took a turn for the worse.
About two years into the relationship I discovered his unfaithful ways. The first act of physical abuse occurred when I confronted him with my allegations. He mushed my face into a wall. Once he crossed that line our altercations only grew more and more aggressive. To the point that a weekly tussle became the norm.
After Tia Glenn-Scott’s abuser pulled a gun on her in front of her younger sister, she knew it was time to escape the abusive relationship – one that was often influenced by drug use.
I was standing up doing my teenage sister's hair at the time. He came into the room, clearly under the influence of some illegal substance. He wore an unpleasant grimace but we ignored him and proceeded to chuckle at the movie we had been watching before he interrupted. He seemed irritated by our failure to acknowledge his presence. We already "knew how he was".
He glared at me sadistically as he sat down in a chair to my immediate right. He pulled out the black glock and laid it on his right thigh…
At first, Tia failed to see the severity of the situation.
I was so numb by this point in our 9 year toxic relationship that I acted as though I wasn't even phased by him brandishing his weapon. I was tired of his b.s. I called his bluff - told him that he wasn't going to do anything. I even taunted him and laughed at him. My sister advised me to stop which brought me back to reality. Out of love for her and her safety I did. Not wise as he could have shot us both. Reflecting on that moment, I believe that I was in so much pain that I may have actually wanted him to pull the trigger to end my misery. The reality was that he pulled out a loaded weapon with my baby sister present and our young son in the house as well.
It was the wakeup call Tia so desperately needed.
Since she ended the relationship, Tia has been working toward fully forgiving her abuser.
I am a compassionate child of God. I do believe that I need counseling to deal with it in depth, however for the most part I forgive him.
Today, she is a member of 'It Takes A Village' Citizens Committee Against Domestic Violence, a nonprofit organization bringing awareness to domestic violence in the community.
Our goal is to educate and inform women of the resources available to them through the county/government. If they decide to leave an abusive relationship, they are not alone. Help is only a phone call away. Our coming together was spearheaded by the brutal slaying of a young mother of three in our community. She was shot dead at the hands of her abuser - her children's father. We are in the midst of planning our second event. Our first community meet and greet was held this past August. I also take up collections and donate clothing and other goods to our local thrift stores. Two in particular: 'The Resourceful Woman' and 'Blue Ridge Hospice' donate all proceeds to L.A.W.S. -Loudoun Abused Women's Shelter. Women are able to utilize these facilities and shop for free to prepare for interviews, jobs – a brand new life free from their abusers.
Tia believes that being a domestic violence survivor is more than “living to tell the tale”.
Being a domestic violence survivor means that I am strong, resilient and courageous. Over the course of my nine year toxic relationship I nearly lost myself. Until that one day when I decided that enough was enough and that I WAS ENOUGH with or without him. Being a domestic violence survivor is leaving everything behind and having faith that everything will work out in time. Being a domestic violence survivor is finding the courage to stand up to your abuser and refusing to accept being treated like crap! Being a domestic violence survivor is digging deep beyond the scar tissue, mustering up the courage to salvage what is left of you. A domestic violence survivor is a warrior who rises each day unafraid and head held high because she believes in herself and knows her worth. I am a domestic violence survivor!
To discover more about Tia and her advocacy against domestic violence, follow her on Instagram @luvlee_leo!